Another good question came the other day:
I am following your practice of clearing one item each day. My question for you is what about the stuff that comes into your home- like mail? I can never seem to get through it and it piles up – then if I clear only one thing, a back-log is created. How do you handle the stuff coming in??
My reply
Thanks for your message on my blog! The answer to your query – and the secret to *clearing anything* – is to FEEL.
Feel… the anxiety, the resistance, the despair, the pain, the stuckness, the insane piles, the rage at advertisers for sending you stuff you never asked for, the cringe of opening up a bill from the credit card company ….
Pssst… guess what? It’s not about the piles, the backlog, the advertisers, or the “handling of the stuff from coming in.”
The secret to clearing works like magic really, and it follows this principle based on the law of attraction: “As within so without.” The more stuff we despair over – the more we attract it.
As you begin to soften your attachments, the clutter – no matter where it comes from and shows up in your life – will begin to lessen all on its own. You’ll get less junk mail. Less letters to have to sort through. Less magazines to recycle.
Plus you’ll have more energy to clear it on the spot – as it comes in the door. I daresay you may even feel like you can handle more than just “one” thing, pile, or area. 😉
Don’t take my word for it. Try it for at least six months. These two posts I wrote on the subject may help:
Bottom line
The trick is to stay with the program – no matter how small and inconsequential it feels and what your skeptical mind has to say about it. The mind doesn’t have a clue how to “do” simple.
If you have any clearing questions you’d like to ask me, click “Ask Stephanie” in the header bar above. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Stephanie,
I have just (for the first time) come across your website and so resonate and appreciate with what you do, your guidance and philosophies. Clutter, inner and outer, has a big presence in my life. That is, I’m on a quest to declutter big time on both fronts. And, as you so often remind: one step at a time. baby steps. they really do work. One of my passions is helping women declutter their inner space, as I do just that for myself, and I am also discovering that clearing one’s outer, physical space makes such a difference in so many ways. I look forward to reading more on your site, your blog and joining you and your readers on this most exciting (though often overwhelming-to-begin-with) journey!
Hi Paula,
Thank you so much for “stopping by” and for your kind words about my approach to clearing the (internal and external) clutter in our lives. It is so nice to meet another kindred spirit on this path to cultivating our more spacious (blossoming) selves. See you on the trail!
Stephanie