I received a really great question the other day to my recent post “Lean In”:
Question
So once you identify what you are feeling do you tell the person?
My reply
Great question.
Not necessarily. The focus – of feeling with compassionate awareness – is mostly internal.
The good news is that adopting a daily practice of “clearing” this way increases your chance of healing the relationship (with the person, thing, or issue) without having to say or do anything.
The only “telling” I recommend is sharing your feelings with someone who can hold a witnessing space for you: someone who is not attached to the issue or the outcome, and can listen unconditionally without giving advice or fixing.
This is why I’m a big fan of building a strong supportive, and safe, container that your feelings can bump up against. You can learn how to do that here.
Hope this helps!
Stephanie
